Clarification between abortion and miscarriages

I got a comment today about someone's misinterpretation of my last post about abortions.  This person was concerned that I was saying that abortions and miscarriages are alike.  No where in my posts have I ever said that.  PLEASE refer to the post about miscarriages on my post (it is a couple posts down past the post on abortion).

While in both cases, the baby dies, miscarriages and abortions are completely different, as one is not chosen and the other option is chosen.  Agency plays a big role in abortion.  In an abortion a person chooses not to have that specific child, while in a miscarriage the person does not choose for the baby to die.  I DO NOT feel that the Lord would reassign our miscarried children to someone else, and I am certainly not saying that, and certainly will never say that or believe that. 

I have had 3 miscarriages, and those spirits have stayed with our family.  I know this after reading anything I could get my hands on about miscarriages (doctrine, other women's experiences with their miscarriages, reading scriptures, etc.) and asking the Lord about my specific miscarriages.  Years after my miscarriages, the answers came like a flood because I really started to pray intensely and ask God about my specific circumstances.  I now understand what the Lord is talking about when He says that He will liken the scriptures unto us.  Any ways, this knowledge about my miscarriages has brought me the greatest joy and absolute peace I could ever imagine.

I would go into more detail on the topic of miscarriages, but I feel like the previous post on miscarriages and the information in that post (the experiences of other women) is sufficient to answer any ones questions as to how vastly different I feel about miscarriages and abortion.  And I am sure anyone can agree as to how vastly different they are.

I think that the most important thing to do is to ask of God what be true, in your specific circumstances.  Even within abortions, there are times when a woman chooses an abortion because of health reasons, incest, rape, etc.  Something to note in these circumstances is the agency or lack thereof in these cases of abortion.  For a friend of mine such is the case with her choice to have an abortion.  You can read about her story at  http://theyremember.org/caleb-colton/  I love her tender story of the personal revelation she received in needing to have an abortion and then the son returning to her in a future pregnancy.  Our circumstances are so varied and we should not judge one person's circumstances against our own.  God does know us perfectly and judges perfectly.